Where does the responsibility lie when things go wrong?
Son had an extremely bad bout of bullying just past his 13th birthday, it escalated, he had a breakdown, was unable to focus or stop shaking for weeks, nights of driving him around at 2am to try and calm him, working on no sleep whatsoever, regurgitating how his so called friends told him to "kill yourself'. A complete and utter wreck, move forward a few months, school noticed there was a problem with a few children unable to attend, "take the pressure off" we were told, took the pressure off and immediately he started to recover, asked for a ECHP but couldn't have one because he wasn't at school, put on waiting lists for help. In stomps the LA, who give conflicting advice and because now unauthorised absence, start threatening with fines. It's a definitely a mess, with nowhere to turn other than to force your child into school or start believing they need psychiatric help or medication to get the school off your back. Option really is to dereg, but feeling that was what they wanted in the beginning. Child insists they do not want him there. I would say child is probably right.
Thank you for making it clear and supporting us on this hard journey. I can't even find the words for myself, but by reading your words, every line, it really resonates and brings me so much relief. Thank you for being so enlightened.
Having just written about redshirting Kindergarteners. I also think about the phrase "are kids ready for school". Similar to your title, I like to think about "are schools ready for kids". Thank you for this important piece. Schools must continue to change and evolve to support the changing world that are children live in
In the States, and went through this for years,while subconsciously, knowing my son right. My own experience, despite years of homeschooling, my own Unschooling, and the pandemic put me in a tailspin. How can I work, from home, while my son refuses his own education, from the back room, online? He was 13 and sleeping through class while the teachers droned on from his laptop right next to him. When he finally got back into the game, he was a freshman in HS and dealt with a new environment, bullying, racism, and zero support from the administration.
He is now working on a General Ed. Degree at 16, with a certificate program simultaneously. He wants this for himself. He recently was asked to help teach a class in his personal interest field, to students not much younger than himself. He is self taught! and this has given him so much confidence.
Even as the G.E.D. classes continue to give him anxiety- the response he has to the school model, he wants this for himself, and that makes all the difference. Our children do not have to be placed on thI wish i had altar as sacrifice to the education system. They want to learn, it is human nature. Saved myself the grief and looked at my own fears and needs. Why was I pushing so hard against what wasn't working?