Thankyou so much - this made me well up. School want us to deregister our daughter when having her on roll is the only way we can get the alternative provision while we apply for an EHCP. But because she’s not there, she’s apparently not as relevant, not as deserving of attention and support (and funding). We know that, to them, we remain responsible for her continued absence from school - they just don’t understand what she was going through while she was still there. For school to acknowledge and appreciate that, they would have to acknowledge that they were not giving her what she needed. They would need to start unpicking the system, which seems to be set up in such a way that it simply cannot be flexible. I’m going to be taking information from Naomi’s books to our future meetings with school, which fortunately now also include professionals who are advocating for us and our daughter.
I regret the pain you must be feeling as you try so hard to get help for your daughter. Unfortunately, even before COVID, schools were set up without much flexibility. Since COVID, schools are in worse conditions with even less resources and flexibility. Each child's needs differ so significantly that I believe with need IEPs for each child. I would like for many people to share possible solutions. I just joined Substack and am at Education with Grandma.
Thanks Naomi, your posts are always equal parts comforting, educational and inspiring !
I’m a mom to a ‘ghost teen’ in Canada. Thanks to your webinar on helping your child recover from school burnout, we are doing well.
Advice from you that really helped us
- Lower as many demands and expectations as humanly possible and focus on reestablishing safety, connecting and trust
- be aware of the 4 stages of burnout recovery and don’t try to rush to Stage 4, that’s not going to work
- find a community and mentors for your child/teen so they don’t believe their life is over and that they are the only child/teen in the world that this has happened to.
Those are the three that come to mind .. I’m sure there are more !
Recovery has been slow but steady, for both my child and myself. Because let’s face it - parents burn out as well, after years of navigating a school system that is traumatizing your child.
We need all the same things as our kids for recovery .. lowered demands, time to process and integrate the past traumatic experiences, time to figure out what you can learn from those experiences, and access to a community of parents of kids who don’t fit into the one-size-fits-all school system. And
Thankyou so much - this made me well up. School want us to deregister our daughter when having her on roll is the only way we can get the alternative provision while we apply for an EHCP. But because she’s not there, she’s apparently not as relevant, not as deserving of attention and support (and funding). We know that, to them, we remain responsible for her continued absence from school - they just don’t understand what she was going through while she was still there. For school to acknowledge and appreciate that, they would have to acknowledge that they were not giving her what she needed. They would need to start unpicking the system, which seems to be set up in such a way that it simply cannot be flexible. I’m going to be taking information from Naomi’s books to our future meetings with school, which fortunately now also include professionals who are advocating for us and our daughter.
I regret the pain you must be feeling as you try so hard to get help for your daughter. Unfortunately, even before COVID, schools were set up without much flexibility. Since COVID, schools are in worse conditions with even less resources and flexibility. Each child's needs differ so significantly that I believe with need IEPs for each child. I would like for many people to share possible solutions. I just joined Substack and am at Education with Grandma.
Thanks Naomi, your posts are always equal parts comforting, educational and inspiring !
I’m a mom to a ‘ghost teen’ in Canada. Thanks to your webinar on helping your child recover from school burnout, we are doing well.
Advice from you that really helped us
- Lower as many demands and expectations as humanly possible and focus on reestablishing safety, connecting and trust
- be aware of the 4 stages of burnout recovery and don’t try to rush to Stage 4, that’s not going to work
- find a community and mentors for your child/teen so they don’t believe their life is over and that they are the only child/teen in the world that this has happened to.
Those are the three that come to mind .. I’m sure there are more !
Recovery has been slow but steady, for both my child and myself. Because let’s face it - parents burn out as well, after years of navigating a school system that is traumatizing your child.
We need all the same things as our kids for recovery .. lowered demands, time to process and integrate the past traumatic experiences, time to figure out what you can learn from those experiences, and access to a community of parents of kids who don’t fit into the one-size-fits-all school system. And
mentors !
So grateful for you 💚 !