Oh my gosh I have just found these after dealing with my sons years of school refusal with anxiety and being asked by the school if I am seeing a therapist amongst other things and now being charged with habitual truancy. This is amazing I want to take so many of these and have the school and those judging read them even though I don't know that it would make a difference. I would like to put them up to remind me to stay strong and someone understands. Is there a place we can print theses?
My daughter was asked recently.......Is your mum worrying projecting onto you and making you worry ?............My daughter thought about it..........then said I haven't noticed my mum worrying ...........I'm furious she was asked..............but her answer was perfect
I wish there was a way of making the rule making, decision taking people hear your voice loudly, LAs, government, head teachers, the pastoral team, the list goes on. I wish proper change could happen and the system that has never worked and never been made for the children, could be reformed. Your words always land so beautifully, your insights are always completely correct. You made me see that I'm not crazy and I'm not wrong to support my children and stand up for them. You gave me a voice. I'm more of an anoyance than anything else at school I'm sure, but thanks to you I have the courage to make myself heard and advocate loudly for my children's best interests every day. I send your posts to school and quote you! I've preordered your new book as a gift for the pastoral team at our secondary school. I'm so so grateful to have found you. Thank you for all that you do.
OMG! this is so, so true! Anxiety is totally used as a way to dismiss parents concerns or worries. It really devalues the parent or carer who is trying to advocate for their child. I have experienced this and found it so damn frustrating.
You've captured the feeling of the daily struggle so well. The day-in and day-out concern for a child's mental wellbeing ... it is not "anxiety". It is all-consuming and existential.
We need more advocacy, not less. To appear _more_ anxious. How else to effect change?
I'm really grateful to find your page. You just describe our daily life in every detail with a great professionalism. In our family, we've come to school distress in this last semester. My anxiety has started long before, as I wanted to get rid of that continuous struggle ( before and after school). I'm still trying to find a way to homeschool as it's not recognized in my country ( which is silly). But as a working mom, I have another anxiety of how can I do it? Who's gonna stay with them? Will I be able to monitor their learning or play after a day of work. A real dilemma, though I'm sure relieving my kids from structured learning is the best thing I can do for them.
Love love love this. 💯 true. People are so quick to judge, schools especially. It’s a long, lonely path
Recommended on fb and Twitter. Really good
Oh my gosh I have just found these after dealing with my sons years of school refusal with anxiety and being asked by the school if I am seeing a therapist amongst other things and now being charged with habitual truancy. This is amazing I want to take so many of these and have the school and those judging read them even though I don't know that it would make a difference. I would like to put them up to remind me to stay strong and someone understands. Is there a place we can print theses?
My daughter was asked recently.......Is your mum worrying projecting onto you and making you worry ?............My daughter thought about it..........then said I haven't noticed my mum worrying ...........I'm furious she was asked..............but her answer was perfect
Yup I can totally relate, well except I am a dad. :P
Excellent- you’ve put into words what I have often struggled with!
I wish there was a way of making the rule making, decision taking people hear your voice loudly, LAs, government, head teachers, the pastoral team, the list goes on. I wish proper change could happen and the system that has never worked and never been made for the children, could be reformed. Your words always land so beautifully, your insights are always completely correct. You made me see that I'm not crazy and I'm not wrong to support my children and stand up for them. You gave me a voice. I'm more of an anoyance than anything else at school I'm sure, but thanks to you I have the courage to make myself heard and advocate loudly for my children's best interests every day. I send your posts to school and quote you! I've preordered your new book as a gift for the pastoral team at our secondary school. I'm so so grateful to have found you. Thank you for all that you do.
OMG! this is so, so true! Anxiety is totally used as a way to dismiss parents concerns or worries. It really devalues the parent or carer who is trying to advocate for their child. I have experienced this and found it so damn frustrating.
Thank you for this, from an anxious mom tonight.
You've captured the feeling of the daily struggle so well. The day-in and day-out concern for a child's mental wellbeing ... it is not "anxiety". It is all-consuming and existential.
We need more advocacy, not less. To appear _more_ anxious. How else to effect change?
THANK YOU SO MUCH.
I'm really grateful to find your page. You just describe our daily life in every detail with a great professionalism. In our family, we've come to school distress in this last semester. My anxiety has started long before, as I wanted to get rid of that continuous struggle ( before and after school). I'm still trying to find a way to homeschool as it's not recognized in my country ( which is silly). But as a working mom, I have another anxiety of how can I do it? Who's gonna stay with them? Will I be able to monitor their learning or play after a day of work. A real dilemma, though I'm sure relieving my kids from structured learning is the best thing I can do for them.