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Completely. My daughter started trumpet lessons at school and she loved it. 3 years later she is stopping at the end of term. I forgot to say that we weren't interested in grades and could we just play for the fun of it. 😔

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I feel this so deeply. The timelines and constant assessments have gotten completely out of hand. Doing things just for fun doesn’t seem possible in our current society. Thank you for writing about this.

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What she's saying here is that doing things just for fun IS available to adults. It's kids whom we don't allow to experience this. Big difference.

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Yes, I meant the opportunity is not there for young people.

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Agree completely. One of the things I love about homeschooling is that we can make learning enjoyable just in and for itself, not because of passing tests and getting rewards. Lovely piece.

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Are there any links to the research that links rewards and damage to motivation?

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This page is a good summary and cites various sources:

https://www.alfiekohn.org/article/risks-rewards/

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