Yup. My kiddo is a YA now and frankly I’m relieved to be done with the “active parenting” phase of my life. I’m giving my friends with young kids the space to just express their feelings and struggles without kicking it back in their faces like people did to me. Our society hates parents (especially mothers) and children.
This. Completely. This sort of dialogue from school or any friends or family is exhausting. I’ve had this and it just made me felt lonely and inadequate.
Thanks for posting this - It's so validating to read this. This has been (and still is) my experience with both my kiddo's school and LA. It's easy for friends/family to step into this, too, as everyone wants to problem-solve things and they want to steer conversation to something positive (ie your situation can change if you just do this, etc). It's really tough, so it's helpful for someone to lay it out as it actually is.
Exactly this. I've not had to deal with this for years now , I took my kid out of school at age 8. Literally like going round in circles, banging your head against a brick wall or whatever other clichés you can think of for getting absolutely nowhere
Yup. My kiddo is a YA now and frankly I’m relieved to be done with the “active parenting” phase of my life. I’m giving my friends with young kids the space to just express their feelings and struggles without kicking it back in their faces like people did to me. Our society hates parents (especially mothers) and children.
This. Completely. This sort of dialogue from school or any friends or family is exhausting. I’ve had this and it just made me felt lonely and inadequate.
Thanks for posting this - It's so validating to read this. This has been (and still is) my experience with both my kiddo's school and LA. It's easy for friends/family to step into this, too, as everyone wants to problem-solve things and they want to steer conversation to something positive (ie your situation can change if you just do this, etc). It's really tough, so it's helpful for someone to lay it out as it actually is.
The sticker chart is a specific rage that lives inside me.
Ooh the sticker chart. I feel the rage now.
As if a visual time table will suddenly make them keen to come in🙄
Truth. Then they are surprised when things come up as if things got better when you stopped explaining. (easier for them, anyhow)
Yes, exactly our experience.
Exactly this. I've not had to deal with this for years now , I took my kid out of school at age 8. Literally like going round in circles, banging your head against a brick wall or whatever other clichés you can think of for getting absolutely nowhere